Some transitions are chosen and celebrated, while others are forced upon us because of life circumstances. When the transition is not a chosen one, the loss can certainly be very evident. Even when the transition is chosen however, there can still be a deep sense of loss. Sometimes we don’t honor that loss for fear of detracting from the celebration of the gain.
But honoring the past is incredibly important. The past is how we got to where we are today. If we are truly living life to the fullest, then transitions will deeply affect us – emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. When we truly invest ourselves in life and relationships, then naturally, we will feel loss when things change.
This new career transition for me is a chosen path. I am very grateful that I have the opportunity and the life circumstances to pursue this new adventure right now. I still find myself struggling with deep sense of sadness and grief in leaving my former job. I had an amazing job, with awesome hours, most of the summer off, wonderful people to work alongside, and not to mention, a stellar office with a beautiful view of the mountain. Saying goodbye to all of my amazing coworkers has been incredibly challenging for me. Although I will still see them regularly, my relationships will inevitably change. And I will miss them immensely.
Acknowledging and honoring feelings of loss, even when it is a chosen path, is incredibly important in moving forward. I have learned (yes, the hard way) that when I don’t honor my feelings (especially the difficult ones) they have a way of emerging in different forms in my life (which is not usually pretty or healthy). So, even though bursting into tears once in a while is not necessarily pretty either, it is important to recognize and honor the loss in any transition. If you need permission, I give it to you now. Honor the loss, feel the feelings. Reflect on the past and remember the good points. Remember what you have learned and what you will take from those experiences.
Then, when you’re ready – shift your eyes back to the future and remind yourself of the gain... which I am excited to share about next time!
Be blessed friends!